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For guardians (wali): list her profile and take every enquiry yourself

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IslamicKnot is a wali-first Muslim marriage site where you represent your daughter or sister with dignity. You create and control her profile, your number stays private, and no man can contact her directly. Every enquiry comes to you, from a man who has made five commitments and paid to reach your family.

Create a guardian account How a suitor reaches you

What you hold as her wali

As her wali you hold the profile, the number and the pace, from the first enquiry to the nikah.

You create and control the profile

You write it, edit it, pause it or remove it, and you choose every photo. If she prefers to write it herself, she can register as a sister and add your number; every enquiry still comes to you.

Your number stays private

Your number is never listed. It is shown only to a man who has paid to contact your family, and it is never sold or shared further.

You see who is interested

See how many people saw her profile, opened it and asked to contact you, with each enquiry shown only by city, country and date until he calls.

You set the pace

Mark the profile “in talks” when you are speaking to someone, pause it when the family needs time, and reopen it when you are ready. Paused profiles are hidden from search.

How a suitor reaches you

A suitor reaches you in four steps, and never reaches her directly.

  1. He browses reviewed profiles.

    He sees her first name, age, city and the details you choose to add, with a blurred photo or none. He never sees her surname, your number or her address, and he cannot message her.

  2. He makes five commitments.

    Before he can ask for your contact, he confirms the five commitments below.

  3. He pays once to reach your family.

    US$5 per family contact (US$3–4 each in packs). The payment is small, but it filters out men who are only browsing.

  4. He calls you, and you lead from there.

    Ask your questions, ask people who know him, meet his family, and involve her at every step. The decision is hers and yours together.

The five commitments every man makes

Before his first contact request, a man declares five things, the first four sworn with “I bear Allah as my witness”:

  1. He keeps the five daily prayers.
  2. He will never ask her or your family for financial help, and won’t expect your family to pay for furnishing the home.
  3. He is able to start a family: a halal income and no illness that would prevent marriage.
  4. He doesn’t abuse any substance, and if he smokes, he says so openly.
  5. He has read her profile and requirements, and believes she is a genuine match.

A “no” to any of the first four closes his account. These are his declarations: we cannot check his whole life, and you should not take them on trust. They are the standard you test him against in your first call, and a man who breaks one has answered the question for you.

What to ask a suitor, and whom to ask about him

Ask a suitor about his deen, his work and money, his past and present marriages, his health, his plans and his family, then ask people who know him: being a wali is a duty, not a formality. Before you agree to anything, ask him directly about:

  • His prayer and practice, and who he learns from
  • His work, income and any debts
  • Whether he has been married before, and whether he is married now
  • His health, and anything she should know
  • Where you would live, and what he expects about her studies or work
  • His family, and when they can meet yours
  • The mahr he has in mind, and how soon he wants the nikah

Then ask people who know him: his imam, his employer, friends of long standing. Agree from the start that the marriage will be registered with the civil authorities as well as the nikah, so her rights are protected in law. See the full wali’s checklist: how to vet a suitor.

Read 20 questions to ask before nikah →

Verified for trust

A person on our team reviews every profile before it goes live, and checks that the number on a sister’s profile really belongs to her wali. Guardians who confirm their identity with an official ID document receive a Verified badge; verified profiles are listed first and men can filter for them. Verification is optional but recommended.

If you are her mother

As her mother you are welcome to search, read profiles and manage the conversation with your daughter; in many families, especially Pakistani and Arab households, it is the mother who starts the search. We ask that the profile is registered with her father, brother or another male wali, because he is the one men must speak to. If the family has no Muslim man who can act as wali, tell us and we will explain the options, or read how to help your daughter find a spouse. See also how UK families find a rishta.

If you are her brother, grandfather or uncle

When her father has passed away, is not Muslim or cannot act, the role passes to the nearest Muslim man on her father’s side. See who can be a wali, in order. If she has no Muslim relative at all, she can still join: see how supervised introductions work for revert sisters.

Questions guardians ask

Does it cost our family anything?

No. Creating and keeping her profile is free, receiving enquiries is free, and there is no premium tier. Only the man who asks to contact your family pays.

Will my number be public?

No. It is never listed or searchable, and it is shown only to a man who has paid to contact your family. If your number changes, men who already have it see the new one; nobody else does.

Can my daughter create the profile herself?

Yes. She can register as a sister and add your number. Men still cannot message her; every enquiry goes to you.

How do I know a man is serious?

Two filters stand before your phone rings: he has made five commitments, and he has paid to reach your family. IslamicKnot does not vet men beyond that, so use the questions to ask before nikah in the first call.

Can I stop enquiries for a while?

Yes. Pause her profile at any time: a paused profile is hidden from search, so no new enquiries arrive until you reopen it. Marking it “in talks” keeps it listed, with a label men see before they pay.

Is it halal to look for a husband for my daughter online?

Yes. A father seeking a good husband for his daughter is part of the Sunnah: ‘Umar ibn al-Khattab himself offered his widowed daughter Hafsah in marriage to ‘Uthman and then to Abu Bakr (Sahih al-Bukhari 5122). The method stays halal when the family leads it, as it does here: no private chat, and every conversation goes through you.

What if she has no Muslim wali?

She can still register. Revert sisters and sisters whose family is not Muslim create their own profile, and every introduction is a conversation IslamicKnot’s team supervises. For the nikah itself, an imam or Islamic centre can act as her wali. How it works for reverts.

Can a mother be the wali?

In the majority view, no: the wali in the marriage contract is a Muslim man from her father’s side, and where there is none, a Muslim judge or imam. A mother can and should be fully involved in the search and the decision. See the role of the wali in marriage.

What a man pays, and what is free: pricing.

Guides for guardians

Start with one profile; the decision stays with your family

Registration takes a few minutes. We review the profile before it goes live, and you can verify your identity for the Verified badge.

Create a guardian account

Questions? Contact us.